Monday, July 26, 2010
Another funeral
So yesterday we went to the viewing and today we went to the funeral of the boyfriend of one my my wife's stepsisters (one of the stepsisters we rarely see, and a boyfriend we never met, even though they had dated about three years).
The stepsister told us last night that the sister of her dead boyfriend told her that he was planning to propose to her. He had apparently discussed it with his family, so everyone in his family knew. I guess it's some comfort for her to know this. But it's also "Holy shit, God, nice sense of humor you have."
The stepsister told us that last night in a matter-of-fact way (She's a little in shock at how everything went down, understandably), and it was just devastatingly sad. Not only did she have to go through this, but since she wasn't "officially" in the family, she didn't sit with the family at the funeral or get mentioned by the priest. The priest, who, incidentally, had never met the dead guy.
I think there should be a rule:
A MAN WHO NEVER MET YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE A SERMON AT YOUR FUNERAL.
I'm going to be cremated, and we can skip the whole church thing. Just some people who liked me, something good to drink, and an evening reminiscing about the dumb stuff I did and said that made you laugh. That's the way you do it.
The stepsister told us last night that the sister of her dead boyfriend told her that he was planning to propose to her. He had apparently discussed it with his family, so everyone in his family knew. I guess it's some comfort for her to know this. But it's also "Holy shit, God, nice sense of humor you have."
The stepsister told us that last night in a matter-of-fact way (She's a little in shock at how everything went down, understandably), and it was just devastatingly sad. Not only did she have to go through this, but since she wasn't "officially" in the family, she didn't sit with the family at the funeral or get mentioned by the priest. The priest, who, incidentally, had never met the dead guy.
I think there should be a rule:
A MAN WHO NEVER MET YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE A SERMON AT YOUR FUNERAL.
I'm going to be cremated, and we can skip the whole church thing. Just some people who liked me, something good to drink, and an evening reminiscing about the dumb stuff I did and said that made you laugh. That's the way you do it.
# posted by smacky @ 5:04 PM 
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When my friend Zach died of cancer, his funeral was just insulting. The minister had never met him, and his words just meant absolutely nothing. He put on a cd that Zach had wanted played, and he looked like he was going to strangle the body when it turned out to be Sail Away, sung by Cartman from South Park.
Zach was a really awesome guy like that.
Zach was a really awesome guy like that.
I have become more and more convinced that a cremation and sharing stories is the BEST way to do things.
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